Elliot Rodger


Elliot Rodger Was the Real Victim and

American Society Is To Blame

Elyas Bin Yahya Abdul-Ghaffar Rucker

Hawai‘i Pacific University




Elliot Rodger was the victim of a callous American society; a society which by and large fails to recognize the sexual needs of mature males.  It is not all of American society which is so heartless, as Isabel Esquivel-Isidoro commented on one of Elliot Rodger’s YouTube videos “Call me weird, but I wish I could have done something.” (Rodger, 2014)  However, my stance is that Elliot Rodger is an example of what can happen when society minimizes the importance of satisfying the sexual urges of men.


“This world is such a beautiful place; it’s such a tragedy that I’ve had to live, you know, such a pathetic life in it- all because of the cruelty of humanity, and woman.” – Elliot Rodger (Rodger, 2014)  I can empathize with Rodger’s frustrations and feelings of injustice.  His reaction to being sexually frustrated, of being consistently rejected by women, is far from unreasonable.  I find that many people tend to minimize the importance of satisfying a man’s sex drive, most especially women.  It seems to me that the natural order is for women to satisfy their man’s desire for sex, and when a man is given absolutely no satisfaction, the natural order is disrupted and can understandably result in the development of a man like what Elliot Rodger ultimately became.  I can empathize because it is hard for me to imagine how I could have tolerated life to this point without knowing the pleasures of being intimate with a woman.  Kissing and fondling my various girlfriends when I was a young teenager were some of my only sources of pleasure- some of the only activities that could calm my mind and make life bearable.  I am fortunate to have had girlfriends in my teens and into my adulthood.  Without them, it is very likely that I would have lashed out against society in way similar to that of Elliot Rodger’s killing spree.  Numerous recording artists have expressed this intense need that we men have, among them Korn and Nine Inch Nails.  Two songs in particular support my viewpoint that this need of ours is not limited to the initial years of puberty or to Elliot Rodger and myself.  The following is from the Korn song A.D.I.D.A.S.

Honestly somehow it always seems that I’m dreaming of

Something I could never be-

It doesn’t matter to me cause I will always be that pimp that I see in all

Of my fantasies.

I don’t know your fucking name- so what?  Let’s…

Screwing may be, the only way that I can truly be free…

From my fucked up reality…

So I dream and stroke it harder cause it’s so fun to see

My face staring back at me.

I don’t know your fucking name.  So what?  Let’s fuck.

All day I dream about sex.

All day I dream about fuckin’. (Korn, 1996)

Trent Reznor, in his 1994 song Closer, sings about what I believe most men feel but are shamed into denying.

You let me violate you.

You let me desecrate you.

You let me penetrate you.

You let me complicate you.

Help me.

I broke apart my insides.

Help me.

I’ve got no soul to sell.

Help me.

The only thing that works for me.

Help me get away from myself.

I want to fuck you like an animal.

I want to feel you from the inside.

I want to fuck you like an animal.

My whole existence is flawed.

You get me closer to god.

You can have my isolation.
You can have the hate that it brings.
You can have my absence of faith.
You can have my everything.

Help me.
Tear down my reason.
Help me.
It’s your sex I can smell.
Help me.
You make me perfect.
Help me become somebody else.

I want to fuck you like an animal.
I want to feel you from the inside.
I want to fuck you like an animal.
My whole existence is flawed.
You get me closer to god.

Through every forest above the trees.
Within my stomach scraped off my knees.
I drink the honey inside your hive.
You are the reason I stay alive.  (Reznor, 1994)

Reznor’s words strike me as being extremely relevant to any discussion of Elliot Rodger.  In most of Rodger’s YouTube videos he is very clearly asking the world of women for help.  He literally needs them, their loving affection, and their sex.  Without a woman’s love, Rodger’s whole existence is flawed and the logical conclusion is that there is no longer any reason for him to stay alive.

Clinical Psychologist Dr. Judy Ho expresses an opposing assessment of Elliot Rodger when, on an episode of Dr. Drew On Call she states “… narcissism is part of his profile but where does it come from and how does it play into the fact that he wanted to commit a mass murder?  And this is where the research shows us some real interesting things because people who tend to go and shoot up schools and movie theaters are people who are single, young, white males who tend to come from affluent families.  And these types of people are more likely to take their personal pain out on the entire world thinking that the world owes them something; whereas when you look at all the other social demographics, people can be violent when they get to that point, but they tend to just aggress on intimate partners and family members.” (HLN, 2014)

Dr. Ho makes reference to a so-called “race” of people when she singles out “single, young, white males”.  Her statement and her entire assessment, as well as that of Dr. Drew who was nodding in agreement, are rendered invalid when we consider what modern science has to tell us about human “races”.  Dr. Fairbanks informs us in his 2015 masterpiece Everyone Is African: How Science Explodes the Myth of Race that “[t]he time has come to abandon the notion of race as a presumed biological construct when referring to humans.” (Fairbanks, 2015, p. 58)  “What this means scientifically is that classification by race is an oversimplified and inaccurate way to biologically define people.” (Fairbanks, 2015, p. 55)  Fairbanks quotes two researchers, Jorde and Wooding, who state in reference to the DNA variants they examined:

All of these findings, which are in accord with many other studies based on different types of genetic variation assessed in different samples of humans, support an evolutionary scenario in which anatomically modern humans evolved first in Africa, accumulating genetic diversity.  A small subset of the African population then left the continent, probably experienced a population bottleneck and founded anatomically modern human populations in the rest of the world.  Of special importance to discussions of race, our species has a recent, common origin. (Fairbanks, 2015, p. 42)

“According to the scientific evidence, the biblical Eve and Adam mentioned at the beginning of this chapter as the first parents of all humanity are mythical … As humans, everyone is related by common ancient ancestry, and, ultimately, everyone is African.” (Fairbanks, 2015, p. 42)

As I have made abundantly clear with my quotations of two popular musical acts, males need women to love, to have sex with.  Dr. Ho makes a point of emphasizing that many mass murderers are single.  Is this supposed to be revelatory information?  It seems obvious that these men would not have committed these mass killings if they felt loved, emotionally and physically, by at least one woman.





Works Cited

Fairbanks, D. J. (2015). Everyone Is African: How Science Explodes the Myth of Race. Amherst, New York, USA: Prometheus Books.

HLN. (2014, 05 27). YouTube. Retrieved from Dr. Drew On Call: https://youtu.be/cIyD7O_baYo

Korn (1996). A.D.I.D.A.S. [Recorded by Korn]. On Life Is Peachy. Malibu, California, USA: R. Robinson.

Reznor, T. (1994). Closer [Recorded by N. I. Nails]. On The Downward Spiral. Los Angeles, California, USA: T. Reznor.

Rodger, E. (2014, 05 23). YouTube. Retrieved from Elliot Rodger, Lonely Vlog, Life is so unfair: https://youtu.be/-4CressilIo



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